life in the fast lane

I have a friend who keeps asking when my life is going to slow down. What I hear is, "When are you going to stop creating drama?" I know that's not what he's saying; it's just how it plays through my mind's ear trumpet. It flusters me, though, because my life must appear unmanageable to him. Maybe it's just that the goings-on in our house are a different speed than the goings-on in his and he dreads that shift into fourth gear that having older children brings. But it doesn't feel out of control to me. So why does his question get under my skin?